What do you want to do with your life? (Part 2)


A picture of me laughing hysterically at a high school dance.

In the last post I talked about how after college I felt like my life was over. What I meant by that was, I felt like my life of knowing what to do was over. Everything seemed too open too endless. I had so much structure in school. Somebody asked something from me, I did it. I had to take a different class, I took it. After college there wasn’t someone to yell at me and push me in the right direction. Not that I would have worked well with someone yelling at me…. but I wanted someone to tell me where to go!

While I had myself a gap year in a sense (A gap year is similar to a sabbatical but it usually occurs after you turn 18 and looking to start college/university), I didn’t do anything particularly fun or learn anything new. One day at work I was fed up with my job because I wasn’t being promoted and knew that I finally had to do something. I needed to stop complaining, and start doing. I started massively applying to full time jobs because I wanted to move out of my parents’ house and I wanted to be more independent. Long story short after a few months went by, I finally got my “big girl” job. I said goodbye to the only job I  have ever really known and started a new one.

It wasn’t long after my first “big girl” job that I bought myself a house. At age 24, I was freaked out and mildly panicked about what I got myself into. Having a house is great but it’s a huge responsibility. While I do get annoyed that I have to cut the grass, water the garden and pay for maintenance issues- it’s really rewarding and made me an adult almost overnight. If you get a mortgage and some utility bills, you can be a tad bit desperate for your college years. However, I feel like my purpose has become a bit easier to see, and I definitely know what I want in a home and what I can and can’t afford to do.

While my first “big girl” job didn’t work out, I kept trying for different ones until I got to where I am today. I still get that restless feeling every once in awhile. I sometimes feel alone, but I know I can always turn to one of my friends. It seems like while being a twenty something is fantastic for many reasons, finding and owning your identity is one of the longest but most rewarding steps in the process. I can’t say I don’t wake up every once in awhile and yearn for my school years, I entirely do, but having and 8-5 job everyday at least gives me the structure that I need. Every weekend is my dose of spontaneity, my mini mini vacation from my job and my duties.

If I’m ever having a really humdrum day I try to something that scares me or takes me out of my comfort zone. Example: What kinda scares me is initiating a conversation with a cute guy. Example: Something that takes me out of my comfort zone would be me telling someone a personal detail about myself that I haven’t shared with them before.

What’s something that scares you? What takes you out of your comfort zone?


About juliagoolia1920

I'm a twenty something wannabee writer, who is trying to figure out this whole adulthood thing. In my free time, when I'm not writing, I enjoy beer and Netflix. Preferably together. I gravitate towards Cincinnati at night and live in the burbs during the day. On my blog you will find reviews, anecdotes, stories and the occasional rant.

Posted on September 20, 2013, in Past Entries and tagged , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. In general, talking to people I don’t know tends to put me out of my comfort zone. I’ve certainly gotten better though. 🙂

    Lauren from http://www.shootingstarsmag.blogspot.com

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