When You Have A Long Distance BFF

Hello everyone! I know, I know. I haven’t written in forever. Lot of things have changed since I wrote my last blog entry. I’ve been having a hard time writing entries due to the added stress and the temporary absence of my best friend. My best friend has moved to Spain temporarily and while I’m completely excited for his adventure, I am a bit lost at times. Don’t get me wrong, my bestie leaving has helped me in some ways. I no longer rely on only hanging or talking to him about my problems because he’s not here, but as expected, the transition has been difficult.

I can’t even been to describe the amount of worry I have in a daily basis. The majority of my day is spent being concerned about my actions and how it might affect others. This is why I like to write, I can get all of my thoughts on paper and arrange them properly and creatively. I have a serious talent for saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. I fortunately do have a talent for sensing where I stand with someone. I’m bubbly and outgoing most of the time. In turn, I usually can turn it around. Usually.

When my bff was in town I used to be able to walk around Washington Park with him and drink something fabulous from Coffee Emporium. The BFF and I would complain and vent about our daily on goings and then hug it out. It was great. We would analyze and prioritize our problems and dreams and we would figure out how to solve everything together. When my bff told me he was going to Spain to continue his dream, I was happy for him of course. I knew that what he wanted to do would be amazing for his career and I think he was in a place where he needed a big change to impact his life. However, I was distraught to say the least. Of course, having a boyfriend helps, and I do have some amazing friends, but there’s something that happens when your best friend leaves. Your best friend understand you in a way no one else does. You fight like siblings but there’s still a sense of companionship that is always present. You don’t have to apologize all the time, they already know what your intentions are. Lastly, you can be yourself, there’s nowhere to hide. They know what you’re thinking and it’s both a curse and a blessing.

Talking to my bff via Skype and Whats App (Both are apps that use data to talk to anyone with a smart phone anywhere) has been challenging. Long distance made easy, right? Eh, wrong. I mean it’s great that I can use data instead of spending mounds of money to call him, but it sucks because obviously teleportation still isn’t possible. I can’t hug my friend, I can’t get go with my bestie to a bar and I can’t completely express my hatred of Justin Beiber to him just by sending him a text message. When my bestie left I realized how much I depended on him. It’s a whole restructure of a friendship and I’m not sure I’ve gotten used to it just yet.

Any suggestions? How do you cope with having a long distance BFF?


About juliagoolia1920

I'm a twenty something wannabee writer, who is trying to figure out this whole adulthood thing. In my free time, when I'm not writing, I enjoy beer and Netflix. Preferably together. I gravitate towards Cincinnati at night and live in the burbs during the day. On my blog you will find reviews, anecdotes, stories and the occasional rant.

Posted on November 11, 2015, in Past Entries and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Welcome back! I couldn’t even imagine having my friend live far away from me. She’s a bridge away and even that’s too far. Stay strong! Hopefully the time will go by fast for you!

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